Labels and Patience

During our impromptu date to go see Wicked, th3 Nerdster told me that he was feeling conflicted - he *really* likes me, but is still hung up on his ex. Or who his ex used to be. So, we are "going on dates", but not dating, which I think means that we get to go out with other people (but neither of us will), and he doesn't have to feel guilty about still liking her. Otherwise, as my non-boyfriend, he's been acting more boyfriend-y than he did as my actual boyfriend. He's holding my hand, trying to spend all sorts of time with me, giving me hugs/kisses, asking me to go with him on mundane errands. (And I'm not complaining about this - I *really, really, really* like him and want this to continue). My problem is that I'm confused - I'm not really sure what's going on - are we together? Are we not? What's the future going to hold? Is he going to decide that he can't be with me because of said feelings? Duly realized, he's only had four days to figure out a crisis of a breakup he hasn't solved in four months, but I hate waiting. Right now I don't know where I stand or what's going on - something I've never been comfortable accepting - or accepting at all.

This whole waiting-for-someone-else to-call-the-shots-thing is so not okay by me - good thing he's worth it.