Saying Yes

Since I broke up with my last bf a few weeks ago, I've acquired a new friends-with-benefits. It's the first time I've ever done anything so deliberately casual, but I'm interested in trying it out. I've enjoyed the guy's friendship for over a half year, and we've been riffing on Facebook for longer than that. He used to debate, so he likes the give and take of a good argument. Since entering the FwB arrangement, we've sent a few sexts and we're very sexually compatible, at least thought-wise. I know he's been in a long-term relationship, but mostly dicked around relationship-wise last year, so he has some experience in different contexts. He also prioritizes asking for consent - something that I haven't really experienced in my last few relationships. Turns out,consent is mad sexy. I'm not really interested in a relationship with him at this point, because it would certainly cause Drama of all sorts. And, long-term, we have different goals and emphases, so I don't know how that would work out (he's status-obsessed, I firmly identify as a proletariat). But for the time being, it's nice to have someone who's upfront about what they want and approach it rationally.