Moving out and living with roommates has been quite interesting. As all three of us have strong personalities, so negotiating personality is sometimes difficult. For the first month or so, I felt like this about the whole situation. But now, after they've had their passive-aggressive tiff, I really can distinguish between who they are.
Friend One is my gay, male, and LOUD roommate. He is trying to get a degree in one the sciences and has the smallest income and largest non-essentials expenditure of the three of us. Friend One likes to be the center of attention and cuts people off or draws the attention back to him when they divert. He has the potential to be catty and loves drama (and grabbing bums or humping people). He likes to hang out with friends and forgets to do his chores regularly.
Friend Two is a really independent, socially conservative girl a year older than me. She gets wrapped up in the idea of people rather than who they actually are. However, most of the time she realizes that the does it. Although she's pretty slow to anger, she will make your life a passive-aggressive (or even just aggressive) hell if you cross the line. Friend Two needs to be validated in whatever she does, which tends to translate into her moaning.to another person when said anger is happening. However, she is really sweet (usually) and uber-conscious of group harmony. Friend Two also has several insecurities that are big sore spots.
Since the Friends had their big de-Friending meltdown in a whirl of passive-aggressive post-it notes and ignoring each other on Facebook. Friend Two has decided that we can be roomies (vs. roommates), which I am cool with - she's a genuinely nice chick. The problem is that she thinks that she can say mean things about Friend One to me - and I get really uncomfortable. Because she takes specific things really personal and Friend One really doesn't care/is oblivious to this, she gets REALLY hurt and angry at him but is unable to express it to him at all. This leaves me in the role of friend-to-complain-to which is starting to bother me. It feels like talking behind his back about him and I really don't like doing that sort of thing.
On the plus side, this new roomie situation has led to the cleaning out of the hoarding room. Who knew that it was so easy to get rid of stuff?
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3 comments:
haha, wow, this level of drama is baffling to me. c-congratulations on being a roomie?
Eh. Friend One likes to be at the center of attention, and consequently creates drama wherever he goes. But I only see him about 2 times a week, so I don't really care either way.
But Friend Two and I are seriously considering kicking him out, because he a really bad roommate (uses stuff without asking, doesn't do his chores unless we nag him, likes to call Friend Two fat and then grope her). It will be interesting to see what happens next.
'likes to call friend two fat and then grope her,' AAAAA, WHY DO PEOPLE DO THIS SHIT. seriously, kick him out. so much ick.
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